Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth?

God understands our grief, probably better than we realize. But don't ever use your sorrow as an excuse to put words in His mouth or accuse Him of twisting justice.

“Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth? Tell me, if you know so much. Who determined its dimensions and stretched out the surveying line? What supports its foundations, and who laid its cornerstone as the morning stars sang together and all the angels shouted for joy?” (Job 38:4-7)